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Thursday, March 27, 2008

Two hearts apart

I have never been in a long distance relationship, so not much of an expert to comment on such topic! However I do have few friends that had or currently having long distance relationship, with one here and other across the South China Sea! Distance is not big, with the convenience of air flight, internet and mobile phones in modern world.

However, does long distance relationship usually last? Does distance make hearts ponder? Does it make you long for your lover’s touch?? Does distance make relationships grow stronger and bind a couple together in the end? Some long distance relationships do survive obstacles but not all! When you are apart, you tend to think of other often especially in first few months, but as time passes; you may tend to get used to the idea of being apart. You are no longer feeling attached to someone special!

How to make it works for you if you are currently in one or considering one in future? The very most important thing is to tell yourself that the time spending apart should be satisfying and even more exciting than when you are together! It may be dreadful for first few months when you are separated as you could not stop thinking of him! Finally when you have accepted that he is no where near you, you should start finding some activities for yourself! Start filling up those free times by doing something you have longed for! Enrol in those cooking class that you have always dream of, organize outings with your long-lost friends and list down those things that you want to do! Keep yourself busy!

Secondly, long distance relationship involves trust and what to expect out of it! Keep each other informed of your daily activities and new friendships with other people. Continue to make your other half a part of your life! Keeping each other well informed would make the other feel safe and secure of the relationship! Being clear about what you both want is extremely important too, especially in a long distance relationship, in order to prevent future misunderstandings and mistakes. Do not feel afraid to tell your partner what you really need and want from him or her, you deserve the chance to speak from your heart and he or she deserves to know the truth and judge whether they can give it to you.

Although you cannot be romantic in the sense that psychically your lover is not around, there is always way to tell him or her that you miss or love them! You can do this by sending love poems, short messages, or cards and even flowers or gifts delivered to their door step. Always think of creative way to make your relationship interesting and lively!

With the right amount of effort and interest on both parts, a long distance relationship can survive the obstacles it will frequently be challenged with. As long as you both refresh your memories of why you chose to do this in the first place, trust each other, inform one another of your personal lives, keep in touch, and visit, your relationship can turn out to be one of the most successful and happy relationships that ever existed. You both will be secure, happy and satisfied until the day comes when you will re-unite for good and build your wonderful future together.


Jen's Place said...

suddenly cant remember wat comment I wana put here abt long distance relationship...
hehehehe....I miss my babe!!!!

Zooropa said...

this one sounds like an expert offering tips & advice!


Rose said...

Jen, no need comment! You flying soon! Bluek!

Dora, do I sound like expert? Bluek! Learn from those friends that having long distance relationship! kekeke

mama bok said...

It can survive.. but really hard lor.. and both must work equally hard at it.. and really expensive lor.